Friday, December 28, 2007

Safer Sex Supplies



If you're worried about getting sick, or you're worried about getting pregnant when you don't want to be pregnant, then sex probably isn't going to be completely fun no matter what you do. So in other words, gaining confidence in your safer sex and birth control arrangements is one of the sexier things you can do for yourself.

Latex Condoms

From a public health perspective, using latex condoms for penile->vaginal and penile->anal penetration, in any case where one partner may have a transmittable STD which the other does not, is the one habit which would make the biggest difference in the fight against STD's.

A terrific latex condom for most men is the Kimono Microthin: they're thin and transmit sensation well, they're well-constructed, and having no taste that we can discern they're as suitable to oral sex as they are to intercourse. If after trying one you decide you'd like a snugger fit, then try Lifestyle Snugger Fit. If after trying one you decide you'd like a roomier fit, then try Pleasure Plus. On the other hand, if you're looking for inexpensive condoms not to go around a penis but rather to go around the head of your Hitachi Magic Wand, then pick up a pack of Trustex. If none of these options seem to suit you, then try a condom sampler pack to continue your search.

Tips: Condoms are most comfortable and effective when what they're surrounded by is slippery rather than dry - so either keep a small bottle of water-based lube with your condoms, or failing that a few single-use packets of water-based lube. Also, as an STD prevention measure the uncomfortable and generally questionable chemical Nonoxynol-9 has definitely fallen out of favor - Babeland won't carry any condoms or lubes that contain this substance, but if you're buying at a drug store or supermarket you'll need to avoid them on your own.

Latex Dams

Dams are thin rectangles of latex intended for safer oral sex when going down on a woman (cunnilingus), or for safer and cleaner oral sex when licking someone's anus (analingus). For these purposes, far and away the best product is the Glyde Dam. One important tip: putting a bit of water-based lube on the recipient's side of the barrier can help a lot more sensation be transmitted to them.

Unfortunately, if you're used to performing cunnilingus without a barrier, but now feel you must for the sake of your own safety or that of your partner, then making the transition to using a dam can be hard. If this remains true for you, even with practice, then please understand there's no shame in learning to use your hands instead: particularly if you take the opportunity to passionately kiss someone or whisper nasty things to them as you're pleasuring them, sex with hands rather than mouths really can feel awfully good...

Latex Gloves

Particularly if some of the skin on your hands is damaged (or if there is any chance you'll come into contact with blood) and your partner is of unknown STD/HIV status, latex gloves may make sense for finger or hand penetration. They may also make sense if you want to penetrate your partner's ass with your fingers but you have cleanliness concerns (since after you're done you can just peel the glove off and throw it in the trash).

The black latex gloves offered by Babeland are great choices, since by virtue of the fact that they're black latex they also look cool.

Alternatives for People with Latex Allergies

Although in each case the latex safer sex choice is probably the best choice if you can use it, for partners who are allergic to latex (an allergy particularly common amongst medical professionals) alternative safer sex materials may be needed.

If you or your partner is allergic to latex, then for penile->vaginal or penile->anal intercourse the Avanti polyurethane condom is certainly one option (though please understand it is by no means ideal: since polyurethane doesn't stretch as well as latex the reliability and fit is probably just NOT going to be as good for you). An alternative to Avanti is the Reality female condom, which is also usable for anal sex if you remove its inner ring.

For cunnilingus or analingus, if you or your partner is allergic to latex but some sort of barrier is still needed, your best bet is probably to use regular (i.e. non-microwaveable) kitchen plastic wrap instead.

For hands and fingers, Nitrile gloves are available as a substitute for latex gloves in cases where gloves are needed.


Source @ Sexuality.org

Sex Toys for Either Women or Men



Lubes

For almost any kind of penetration (whether with fingers, a penis, or a dildo, and whether vaginal or anal), slippery is sexy and dry is usually uncomfortable. So basically, a bottle of lube is a fundamental thing to have on hand if you're sexually active. Since oil-based lubes destroy latex condoms and silicone-based lubes are only good for very specific situations, a water-based lube is almost certainly what you want.

Water-Based

Water-based lube is your basic, recommended type of lube. It works beautifully with latex, it won't harm any of your sex toys, and it feels natural. For any kind of sex involving vaginal or anal penetration, it can make sex 1000% more fun.

Basically, try BabeLube if you'll mainly use it for vaginal penetration, and try Maximus if you'll mainly use it for anal penetration. Both of these water-based lubes are also glycerin-free, which means they're less likely to feel sticky. If neither of these lubes suit your needs, then try a lube sampler to figure out which kind works best for you.

Silicone-Based

We hesitated to mention silicone lubes in this guide at all, since the overwhelming majority of people actually shouldn't buy them: if you accidentally use a silicone-based lube with one of your silicone toys, an adhesive reaction results which will destroy that toy. Furthermore, since silicone-based lube doesn't feel like natural vaginal lubrication, for most people it wouldn't be the preferred choice for any kind of vaginal penetration.

However, there are two specific situations in which silicone-based lube might make sense: when having sex underwater (since water dissolves water-based lubes but not silicone-based lubes), and for lengthy and intense anal penetration.

Right now, the most commonly-recommended brands of silicone-based lube are Eros and Pink.

Anal Toys

A good anal toy can be a revelation: assuming you have some water-based lube so that inserting the toy is comfortable, it can provide stimulation to the nerve-rich anus while going in, and once in can intensify in a very interesting way the feeling of the whole pelvic region during sex. There are two broad categories of anal toys: those meant to be left in during play, and those meant to be gradually pulled out or pushed in during play.

Toys Meant to be Left in During Play

These are otherwise known as "butt plugs." They have a special shape that helps them stay in once they're inserted, and can be left in while you have other kinds of sex. Choices include the Little Flirt (small), the Ryder (medium), and the Severin (large).

Toys Meant to be Gradually Pulled Out During Play

You may have heard of "anal beads." The more durable alternative is a dildo with a series of bulbs shaped like beads, but without a string running through them that can weaken or break. But either way, the point is the same: you insert them, and gradually pull them out during intercourse or masturbation, perhaps leaving a few for the moment of orgasm itself. The impact of this kind of sensation on your orgasm can be dramatic. Right now, the best anal toys created with this kind of play in mind are the Ripple and the Flexi Felix.

For Cleaning Beforehand, if Desired

To start with, even though the ass is generally cleaner than you might think, if the nature of ass play still leaves you uncomfortable, there's nothing stopping you from using latex or Nitryl gloves for penetration with fingers, dams for rimming, and condoms on any toys that are going to be inserted. There's also nothing stopping you from using the bathroom well before playing, or taking a shower before playing.

But for an additional level of cleaning, or perhaps for an interesting sensation in and of itself, a cleansing douche is always an option.

For Blindfolded Play

Blindfolds are sexy for good reasons: they're a consensual way for the receiver to completely focus on what they're feeling, and they're a way to remove any ambiguity as to who is "running the scene." Unfortunately, despite what you may have seen in the movies, just tying a bandanna around someone's head usually doesn't work very well, so you'd probably want something more secure and simpler to apply. This blindfold is one good choice.

For Bondage and Sensation Play

The range of play which falls under the heading of "BDSM" is vast. Stated poetically rather than technically, it's a way to take the freedom to struggle and strain without hurting anyone, combine that with intense sensations which produce the same endorphin and adrenaline rushes you might get from sports, and bundle the whole thing together with sex.

Just by way of example, if your main interest as a couple is one of you being able to prevent the other from moving, then take a look at the Kookie Cuffs (both wrist and ankle).

Similarly, if your main interest is creating different kinds of (possibly intense) sensations for your partner, then examples of things to look at depending on your interests would be nipple clamps and paddles/floggers.

Candlelight

Don't forget: candlelight is the most flattering form of illumination you're likely to find, and when used safely is probably the single easiest way to upgrade the appearance of wherever you and your partner play.

Sex Games

Most of the "sex games" you see advertised are pretty cheesy, but we've found a few which seem to have value: the Sex Questions game for helping partners learn more about each other, and the Pervartistry game for having fun with a group of open-minded adults.



Source @ Sexuality.org

Sex Toys for Men



For Penile Stimulation

Most men have their first orgasm with the help only of one of their hands, and throughout life this may remain a perfectly enjoyable and comfortable way to reach orgasm. However, there's definitely no harm in experimenting with new sensations to see if you like them. For example: the Hugger Vibrator, which focuses sensation on the head of the penis, or the Cybersleeve, which distributes sensation all along the shaft of the penis.

For Prostate Stimulation

For some men (though certainly not all), ass play in general, and prostate stimulation in specific, is the one thing they discover in late adulthood that they wish they'd discovered in early adulthood.

The "Toys for Either Women or Men" section below will cover most butt toys, since most of them are designed equally for men or women, but one toy deserves special mention in this section: the Aneros. It's specifically designed for men for the sake of prostate stimulation, either on its own or accompanying masturbation, and is basically the men's equivalent of the "Archer Wand" toy mentioned earlier.

Something Often Overlooked...

We realize this suggestion may seem out of place in a sex toy guide, but we can't help but mention it: finding clothing that expresses who you are. The increased feelings of sexiness which you gain from wearing clothes that you feel you look good in, and which you feel confident in, is very real regardless of your gender.



Source @ Sexuality.org

Sex Toys for Women



For Having Orgasms With: Vibrators

If you're female, or have a female partner, a vibrator is the toy most likely to make the biggest difference to your sex life. Many women have their first orgasm with a vibrator, and most women find it easier to reach orgasm with a vibrator then by any other way. Furthermore, most women cannot reach orgasm through intercourse alone (not through any lack of appreciation or love for their partners, and not through any failing at all on their partner's part, rather just through how the female body is constructed), so if you're a male with a female partner and think it would be sexy and hot for her to have an orgasm while you're having intercourse, a vibrator could be the best present you could get.

Note that in this section we're just talking about vibrators that are meant to stimulate the clitoris, i.e. which are used externally, rather than inserted into the vagina. Regardless of what image may pop into your head when you hear the word "vibrator," the external kind is by far the most effective for having orgasms, and by far the most commonly recommended (not to mention that they can then also be used during intercourse with a partner).

Outlet-Powered Vibrators

If you buy only one vibrator, we recommend buying one that uses an electrical outlet rather than batteries: they last longer (potentially decades), they never run out of power just as you're about to have an orgasm, and since they're made by mainstream electronics companies and sold in everyday stores (people actually DO use them on their aching backs and feet) you don't even have to be embarrassed if someone else finds it.

Of the outlet-powered vibrators, the preferred choice is still the Hitachi Magic Wand: in comparison to other plug-in models the Hitachi Magic Wand is easier to use during sex with a partner, it's easier to put a condom over the end in case someone else wants to use it, and the optional penetrative attachments that you can get for it are higher-quality.

Tips: Use it through panties, sheets, or a thin towel if the vibrations are a little too intense for your bare clit. If you want to go for multiple clitoral orgasms, then after the first one back off on the pressure while keeping the vibrator moving, avoiding direct contact with your clit until your arousal level builds again. Moving your hips while using your vibrator - perhaps also squeezing and relaxing your "PC" muscle in time with your breathing - is something else that can enhance the whole experience. And finally, when it comes to using your vibrator during intercourse with a partner, you'll probably find that "doggy style" is the most convenient position to use the vibrator in.

Battery-Powered Vibrators

Even if you already own an outlet-powered vibrator, picking up a separate battery-powered one can still make sense: the smallest of them can easily be kept in a purse, you can use them more discreetly and spontaneously, they may be more convenient for partner sex if you and your partner like to change positions a lot, obviously you can use them when you're not near an electrical outlet, and some of them can be used in or near water (which is nice if you have a hot tub, or if the bathroom is the only place in your house where you have some privacy).

Right now the most versatile choice is probably the Waterdancer: it's very small, very well made, and completely waterproof, with a design similar to that of the famed (but non-waterproof) "Pocket Rocket."

Tip: Make sure you have spare batteries.

For Enhancing Your Orgasms: G-Spot Toys and Dildos

Once you've become comfortable using a vibrator on your clitoris, there are two different directions it might be fun to explore: either using a firm G-spot toy to also deliver firm pressure against your G-spot, or else using a dildo so that you can enjoy a fuller and more satisfied feeling while using your vibrator. Before beginning, please keep in mind that any toy you penetrate yourself with is going to feel better if you first apply a little water-based lube to it: good lube choices are covered a little later in this guide.

G-Spot Toys

We realize a lot of fuss gets made about the "G-spot," and not every woman finds pressure on this area of their vagina to be enjoyable, but the people who like it often find that they really like it, so please bear with us for a quick recap...

Basically, the G-spot is an area on the forward wall of the vagina (i.e. in the direction of your belly) about two to three inches in (i.e. just beyond the pubic bone), which particularly when you're very aroused may feel a little different from the area around it. One way to find and stimulate your G-spot is with a partner, using his or her first two fingers inside you to press firmly upwards, and perhaps stroke the area of the G-spot with a slight "come to me" motion. The other way to find and stimulate your G-spot is with a rigid curved toy.

So, if you own a Hitachi Magic Wand, one way to get started is to pick up the Gee Whiz attachment for it. If you own a clitoral vibrator other than the Hitachi Magic Wand, then get the Archer Wand toy instead (which is also the best choice if you either already know you like extremely firm G-spot pressure, or are having trouble finding your G-spot). On the other hand, if you don't own any sort of vibrator but know you definitely want something that can stimulate your G-spot as well as your clit, then the G-Twist may be your best bet.

Although G-spot stimulation isn't something that's enjoyable for every woman, if it works for you then the point is to either deepen and intensify the orgasms you get from your vibrator by stimulating your G-spot as you approach and go through your clitoral orgasm, or else to enjoy the G-spot stimulation as a sensation and source of orgasmic release completely on its own (maybe after first having one clitoral orgasm to warm up, or maybe not).

Tips: the first big tip about G-spot stimulation is that it's probably only going to be fun once you're aroused, and the more aroused you are the more fun it may be. The second big tip about G-spot stimulation is that the pressure may need to be quite firm and focused in order to work for you.

Dildos

While G-spot toys are designed to intensely stimulate one particular part of the vagina, most dildos are designed to give you a more generally satisfying feeling of fullness, and perhaps feel good when gently moved in and out. When you have a clitoral orgasm with your vibrator or fingertips they give you something firm and satisfying to clench your vaginal muscles around, and if you like having sex with men they give you a feeling at least a little bit like intercourse with your partner which may help you fantasize. They're also available in a wide variety of shapes and textures, so you never have to get bored.

Your first choice in selecting a dildo is the material you want it to be made out of, and these days that's a no-brainer: you want silicone. Silicone is hypoallergenic and non-porous (meaning that if you like you can either clean it with hot water and anti-bacterial soap or else completely sterilize it by boiling it for five minutes), it feels warm to the touch and retains body heat, it transmits vibration beautifully, it can be made into toys that range from floppy to almost completely rigid, and if taken care of (i.e. not exposed to anything sharp that could puncture or tear it, and not exposed to silicone lubes) your toy could last a lifetime. In short, it's the perfect material to make a dildo out of.

Your second choice is selecting a width and length, and of these getting the right width is by far the more important (since you can always just not insert the dildo as far, or else wrap your fist around the base, if it would otherwise be too long). One way to pick a width is to use a rule of thumb: if you know that having two fingers in you feels just about right then select a dildo between an inch and an inch and a half in diameter, but if three fingers feels better to you then pick something slightly larger than an inch and a half in diameter. If you'd like to be more sure than this, you could first purchase some inexpensive non-silicone dildos in a variety of widths (such as these), and then choose the width of your silicone purchase based on which felt the most comfortable to you.

Your third choice is whether or not you want your dildo to resemble a human penis (though note that the "non-realistic" models are available in a variety of abstract textures and shapes, so in other words you don't have to miss out on any interesting kinds of friction just because your dildo doesn't have fake veins).

Your final choice is shape. Do you like the slightly eye-popping feeling of first being penetrated? Then pick something with a slightly pronounced head or knob at the tip. Do you like pressure against the forward wall of your vagina? Then pick something with a curve. But in general, it's probably simplest to just look at the shape and imagine what it might feel like inside you, and what it might feel like entering you, and make your choice from there.

So, with all that in mind, here are the links to the silicone dildos that Babeland carries.

For Having Harness Sex with a Partner

A harness is something you strap onto your pelvis to hold a dildo just over your pubic bone, which you can then use to penetrate your partner either vaginally or anally almost as if you had a flesh-and-blood penis. This is a powerful fantasy for some men and women, though certainly not all. However, like anything else in life that's safe, if you're not sure whether you'd like it or not then you're probably better off trying it at least once, so you and your partner can have more time in your lives to enjoy it if you find that it's something you both enjoy.

Right now, the preferred harnesses definitely seem to be either the Terra Firma or the Jaguar. Examples of dildos they can be paired with include the Mistress (medium), and the Leo (medium-large).

Tips: When using a harness, imagine that the dildo is actually part of your body (for most people this makes it easier to control). Also, if you have problems with your dildo slipping out of your partner, select a dildo with a slightly bulbous "head" so that the increased resistance will alert you when it's about to pop out.



Source @ Sexuality.org

Thursday, December 27, 2007

Male Multiple Orgasm

male orgasmINTRODUCTION

What follows is a summary of some of the techniques presented in The Multi-Orgasmic Man. Please keep in mind that this is just a fraction of the information presented in the book: a lot of supporting material is left out, along with ALL the material related to "energy" techniques. Specifically, this summary will see you through only the first part of The Multi-Orgasmic Man: if you like what you experience based on the material below, then by all means buy the book and try the rest.

THE BASIC APPROACH

This book's basic approach for male multiple orgasms is that men stop or change the stimulation they are creating/receiving just prior to reaching the point of ejaculatory inevitability. If done close enough to ejaculation, one may experience the muscular contractions that accompany what the authors call "contractile phase orgasms" without moving into "expulsion phase orgasm." Expulsion-phase orgasm is accompanied by ejaculation and erection loss, while contractile-phase orgasm is accompanied by the normal feelings of "coming" (including the 3-5 sec. "fluttering" muscular contractions in the pelvis) without ejaculation and without erection loss.

The Multi-Orgasmic Man suggests that men "peak" to this contractile phase orgasm many times over the course of a lovemaking session or masturbation session. After experiencing each orgasm, one pauses for a few seconds and then resumes whatever pleasurable stimulation one was engaged in.

PROPER BREATHING

The first step this book discusses is learning about breathing. By breathing deeply and regularly (without hyperventilating) one can gain more control over orgasm, and enhance one's ability to skirt along the contractile side of things without falling over into the expulsionary side of things. Here's how to practice:

Exercise 1

  1. Sit on a chair with your back straight and your feet touching the floor about shoulder width apart.
  2. Place your hands over your navel and relax your shoulders.
  3. Inhale though your nose and feel your lower abdomen expand at the navel area (below and around it) so that it bulges outward. Your diaphragm will also descend.
  4. Keeping your chest relaxed, exhale with some force to pull the lower abdomen back in, as if you were pulling your navel back toward your spine. Also feel your penis and testicles pull up.
  5. Repeat steps 3 and 4 eighteen to thirty-six times.

LEARNING TO FOCUS ATTENTION

The following exercise enhances the ability to concentrate. The ability to direct attention to one's partner is an important part of sex.

Exercise 2

  1. Slowly inhale (expanding your belly) and exhale (flattening your belly). Count each complete inhalation and exhalation as one breath.
  2. Continue breathing from the belly and counting from one to one hundred, thinking only about your breathing.
  3. If you notice that your mind has strayed, start again.
  4. Practice this exercise twice a day until you can count to one hundred with ease.

FINDING THE PC MUSCLE

The PC (pubococcygeus) muscle is responsible for the rhythmic contractions in the pelvis and anus during orgasm. In women, PC muscle contractions may be used to contract around the penis, causing further stimulation. In both men and women, a strong PC muscle is associated with stronger orgasms. Besides this effect, conscious contraction of the PC muscle around the prostate gland is one technique this book recommends men use in helping to avoid ejaculation.

Exercise 3

  1. When you are about to urinate, stand on your toes and the balls of your feet. If necessary, you can use the wall for support.
  2. Inhale deeply.
  3. Exhale slowly, forcefully push out the urine while pulling up on your perineum and clenching your teeth.
  4. Inhale and contract your PC muscle to stop the flow of urine midstream.
  5. Exhale and start urinating again.
  6. Repeat steps 4 and 5 three to six times or until you have finished urinating.

STRENGTHENING THE PC MUSCLE

This exercise is designed to strengthen the PC muscle. Although one could conceivably stop doing exercise 1 when proper breathing becomes second nature during sex, and one could stop doing exercise 2 when one is capable of directing and maintaining attention, and one could stop doing exercise 3 when one is familiar with one's PC muscle, one should make a habit of doing exercise 4. The more it is done, the stronger the PC muscle will get, and the better sex will feel.

This exercise may also be done by women to receive similar benefits. Please note that in the exercise below the only really important contraction is the PC contraction. You may skip the mouth and eye contractions if you wish, as well as any pelvic contractions unrelated to the PC muscle.

Exercise 4

  1. Inhale and concentrate on your prostate, perineum, and anus.
  2. As you exhale, contract your PC muscle around your prostate and around your anus while at the same time contracting the muscles around your eyes and mouth.
  3. Inhale and relax, releasing your PC, eye, and mouth muscles.
  4. Repeat steps 2 and 3, contracting your muscles as you exhale and releasing them as you inhale, nine to thirty-six times.

SELF-PLEASURING

This is where the core technique of male multiple orgasms is learned, before they're incorporated into lovemaking with a partner.

Exercise 5

  1. Start by lubricating your penis. Lubricant will increase your sensations. Oil is generally better than lotion, which dries up more quickly. [Though keep in mind that this is just for self-pleasuring - for sex with a partner, oil will break down latex condoms, and isn't the healthiest thing for the vagina, so it's not what you'd want to use with a partner.]
  2. Pleasure yourself however you like, remembering to massage and stimulate your entire penis, your scrotum, and you perineum, including what the book calls the "Million-Dollar Point" (a point on the perineum just forward of the anus). Continue to breathe deeply and regularly, as you learned in exercise 1.
  3. Try to notice your increasing levels of arousal: notice the tingling at the root of your penis, notice the stages of erection, notice your heartbeat rise.
  4. When you are getting near ejaculation, stop and rest (possibly breathing in deeply and holding the breath for a second or two). Try to notice the contraction of your PC muscle and anus that occurs at contractile-phase orgasm, although don't be surprised if it takes some time to experience this without ejaculating. You can also try to squeeze your PC muscle around your prostate if the prostate starts contracting and you are afraid you might fall over the edge.
  5. After you regain control, you can start again as many times as you like and continue for as long as you like.

In this exercise, one should experiment with getting as close as possible to ejaculation without ejaculating. The PC muscle contraction part of this technique is what allows you to get MUCH closer to ejaculation (and hence experience a fuller non-ejaculatory orgasm) than mere stopping would allow.

If you manage to achieve contractile-phase orgasms (without ejaculating) twice or more in one masturbation session without losing your erection, then you should pat yourself on the back: you're multi-orgasmic!

INCORPORATING MULTIPLE ORGASMS INTO SEX WITH A PARTNER

Once the proper feelings are identified and experienced in Exercise 5 (contractions of the PC muscle that WOULD have led to ejaculation but don't because you stopped and/or clamped your PC muscle around your prostate) they can be carried over straight away in to sex with a partner. The only difference is that with a partner you generally stop thrusting or else (verbally or non-verbally) ask your partner to slow down/stop whatever THEY are doing rather then slowing down/stopping your own hand as you did in Exercise 5.

Note that in sex with a female partner, it's often a good idea for the woman to experience an orgasm or two first (manually or orally) so that any stopping/starting is not as disturbing, and so that the intercourse in general is more pleasurable. Even so, if it's necessary for the man to slow down to avoid ejaculating, but the woman is close to orgasm and doesn't want thrusting to stop, there are a few options. Obviously, the man can stop thrusting and massage the clitoris or vagina with his hand. Another approach is to just change the thrusting style: instead of moving in and out, while all the way in move up and down or in circles while pressing your body against her clitoris. This movement is driven by the pelvis, and can be a lot of fun.

CHOOSING A SEXUAL POSITION FOR INTERCOURSE WITH A FEMALE PARTNER

"Man on Top" (missionary) position allows good eye contact, which is valuable if both partners are multi-orgasmic and they want to do some of the "energy" stuff mentioned in this book. Although this position isn't the best at enabling G-spot stimulation, this kind of stimulation can be increased by putting a pillow underneath the woman's hips, or by her bringing her legs up to drape over the man's shoulders (also, the higher the legs, the deeper the penetration).

"Woman on Top" (straddling) position is an easy one for men to control ejaculation in. Gravity assists in ejaculatory control, and because the man can relax his pelvic muscles it's MUCH easier for him to pay attention to what's going on and slow things down if ejaculation is too close. This position also allows the woman to stimulate her clitoris during sex. The fact that the woman can control rate and type of stimulation, and the fact that she can stimulate her clitoris during sex, make this position a relatively easy one for multi-orgasmic women to be multi-orgasmic in.

"Man from Behind" (doggie) position is good if strong stimulation is desired, or if desire is flagging. Deep penetration is very easy, and becomes deeper the more "forward" the woman bends (i.e. leaning into the bed with the legs and torso at a sharper angle to each other). Clitoral stimulation is easy, and G-spot stimulation is pretty direct. The lack of eye contact is the only real drawback, though if you have a mirror by the bed you can see each other's eyes by looking to the side into the mirror (which some people find erotic).

Source @ Sexuality.org

Thursday, December 20, 2007

Fitness Safety Tips

fitnessWe’re always up to our toes to lose the extra pounds. The problem is, others tend to overdo it to speed up getting back into shape. Here are just a few reminders on how to keep sweating towards a healthier you – less the injury and risk factors:

* Consult a health professional.
If you’re starting out on a new Fitness routine, remember to consult a health professional to provide expert advice before you begin. This is a must to foresee possible health risks posed by the exercise, especially for those with medical conditions. It is best to seek professional guidance rather than risking your health and safety.


* Warm up and stretch.
The vital parts in every exercise routine are stretching or warming up. Often overlooked when starting out one’s exercise regimen, stretching actually prepares your muscles to the impending rigidity of your workout. A good pointer is to do a less strenuous version of the exercise you’re about to do. Warming up prevents you to feel the strain of your activity by gradually increasing your heart rate, and puts off the buildup of lactic aid that causes soreness and tiredness in your muscles. A good 5- to 10-minute warm up is necessary before you exercise.


* Drink plenty of fluids.
Dehydration is one of the common problems suffered by individuals who frequently exercise. This may pose as a serious problem as water is a vital component of the human body, making up almost 78% of our body. Make sure you hydrate by drinking plenty of fluids so that which is lost from sweating is restored back to your body. Fluids help muscle endurance, as dehydrated muscles easily get sore and tired.


* Work with a Fitness partner.
A Fitness partner or a buddy may be helpful especially if you are not exercising under the watchful eye of a Fitness Trainer. A Fitness friend can be your spotter, motivator, or warn you in case you are overtraining. Besides, working with someone is better than exercising alone. It makes all the exercise much more fun.


* Wear the right kind of clothing and footwear.
Wearing the wrong shoe is usually the common cause of exercise injuries. Make sure that you’re wearing the right shoe size, and provide much needed support for your feet. Appropriate clothing is also a must. Wear comfortable clothes that are quick to dry and allow you to move freely during your regimen.


* Know your limitations.
Most of us tend to overdo our Fitness regimen just to shed off those extra calories we have gained. Try resting for a day in between your Fitness regimen to allow your muscles and body to recover. Muscle soreness and discomfort may lead to burnout and you may have to give up on your regimen all too quickly.


Remember these Fitness Safety tips so you can stay healthy and out of harm's way.

Source @ abc-of-fitness.com

Thursday, December 13, 2007

Best SUVs 2007

SUVPrinting a story on the best sport utility vehicles two weeks after An Inconvenient Truth won the Oscar for Best Documentary Feature is perhaps a bit politically incorrect.

On the other hand, the people at the Oscars who made such impassioned pleas for a greener world with lower carbon-dioxide emissions--folks such as Al Gore, Leonardo DiCaprio and Melissa Etheridge--would probably feel a bit smug if they saw SUV sales reports from 2006.

DaimlerChrysler's (nyse: DCX - news - people ) Chrysler Group saw passenger-car sales decline by 3%, while sales of trucks and SUVs declined 8%. At General Motors (nyse: GM - news - people ), car sales declined 7%, while truck and SUV sales declined by around 9% or 10%.

Among American automakers, Ford Motor (nyse: F - news - people ) produced the most dramatic discrepancy between car and truck/SUV sales last year.

The company's passenger-car sales increased 5%, while truck and SUV sales declined 14%. In a January statement announcing its 2006 sales figures, Ford said "higher gasoline prices and long-term demographic trends drove SUV sales lower, and a soft housing industry weighed on full-size truck sales."

But the sales picture is changing in the first two months of 2007.

Balancing Act
The arrival of such new, car-like "crossover" SUVs as Ford's Edge, Lincoln's MKX, GMC's Acadia and Saturn's Outlook are helping even the scales a bit--even perhaps tipping them back toward good news for SUV manufacturers.

GM reported in a recent statement that the Acadia and Outlook "drove a 97% retail increase in the mid-crossover segment" for the company in February, compared with that time the year before. Such other new SUVs as Jeep's redesigned Wrangler have also been well received.

These new, car-like SUVs, as well as steadier gas prices, could make 2007 a better year for builders of the practical but socially maligned vehicles--but American automakers aren't placing their bets yet.

In that January statement in which Ford blamed declining truck and SUV sales on gas prices, demographic trends and the housing industry, it added, "Ford believes these factors will continue to weigh on these segments in 2007."

Still, the best new SUVs really are quite something.

Winning Wheels
Cadillac's overhauled Escalade, which the company introduced in 2006, has the nicest interior of any American automobile.

Mercedes-Benz was quick to follow with tough competition for the Escalade: the plush, full-size, $53,000 GL-Class SUV, which saw 19,000 sales in 2006--a better performance than that of Mercedes' more-affordable R-Class SUV.

The GL and the Escalade are among the best SUVs, but 2007's fourth quarter will see the arrival of an SUV unlike any other: the Dutch-built, 12-cylinder, 500-horsepower Spyker D12 Peking-to-Paris: the world's only exotic SUV.

Post- Inconvenient Truth, is it gauche to be excited about a few SUVs? We know that plenty of people still love the vehicles for their cargo utility and commanding views of the road, so a guide to 10 great ones, we think, is perfectly acceptable.

Sorry, Mr. Gore.

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Monday, December 10, 2007

Walking as a Cardio Exercise

walkingThe following is a short description, the targeted body muscles/areas, and suggested ways to Incorporate Walking in your Fitness Plan.

Walking
Walking is one of the easiest, most versatile, and most profitable cardio exercises to be fit. All you Need to Walk is a good pair of shoes, comfortable clothes, and desire.

Walking is a great way to learn about how your heart rate reacts to different exertion levels since it's easy to monitor and control how hard you work. It doesn't matter if you Walk Outside (e.g. Hiking) or Indoors on the treadmill (especially if the weather is poor) since you will get just as much exercise.

Targeted Fitness Goals: works the gluts and all the muscles in the leg - quadriceps and hamstrings in particular.

Incorporate Walking in your Fitness Plan: Walk for at least 30 minutes, 3-4 days a week. If you get the hang of it, add five minutes to your walks (total walking time of 35 minutes). Keep adding 5 minutes until you are walking as long as desired.


Keep in mind that the more times you do this Cardio Exercise in a week, the higher your health benefits will be.

Source @ abc-of-fitness.com

Monday, December 3, 2007

Fashion For Men

men fashionDressing sense is a necessity as the fashion rule. A man should be aware about the color combination of his trouser, shirt, neck-tie, and shoes etc. A man should choose the light colored shirt and dark trouser color. You can select printed or plan shirt according to the trend. Men can choose the matching and stylish neck-ties. There are a large variety of ties in the market that you can select the suitable one. Your ties should be slightly lighter than your shirt’s color or it can also contrast of your shirt or it can be matching of your trousers color.

A man should wear a good looking or luxurious watch, if he can afford, because watch is one of the most important accessories of the man. You can choose a watch according to your lifestyle. The one thing is noticeable as the rule of fashion that your shoes and belt should be of the same color as your watchband.

A man should not wear different colored belt and shoes rather the color of the belt and shoes should be the same. You can choose brown, black and golden brown colored shoes; those can match with any colored dress while other colors can be difficult to match. Without a belt your trouser fitting will not look better.

Eyeglasses also express the personality of a man. Sunglasses not only protect your face and eye from the sunrays but also provide a admiring shape to your face.

Source @ fashionrules.info

Saturday, December 1, 2007

Basic Fashion Rules

Gender differentiates the behavioral norms of a male and female. Society also transforms biological sexuality into the products, which are used by the human for the life activities. A society expects that dresses of the male and female should be according to the physical difference of the body. There can be some cultural and creative changes in the dresses of the males and females. The people who are wearing the dresses should have the sense about what to be wearing according to their gender and a professional dress designer should also have the sense to design the dress according to the gender of the client.



Men wearing dresses those are designed for women can look nonsense and humorous. A female should wear the dresses according to her physic. In the same way a man should wear dresses according to his body structure and the personality. Women can look more beautiful in wearing the designed cuts in the dresses while men wearing should be sincere and smart looking. There can be some changes in the men wearing according to the fashion trend but it should have a basic difference from the female dressings.

The males and female consumer should also select dresses according to their body structure as if his/her height is short then choose the lined cloths and it can give you a tall look. A slim consumer should not wear the tight fitting dresses but choose loose cloths then your physic and it will give you a soft look. So, body differences and gender differences play an important role in the fashion world.


Source @ fashionrules.info