Showing posts with label Sexuality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sexuality. Show all posts

Monday, November 9, 2015

Kehidupan Seks Yang Sehat Membangun Keharmonisan Rumah Tangga


Masih banyak orang yang menganggap bahwa kegiatan seksual hanyalah merupakan pemenuhan kebutuhan biologis belaka sehingga mereka tidak merasa perlu untuk memiliki kehidupan seks yang sehat. Padahal aktifitas seks sudah terbukti cukup bermanfaat bagi kesehatan dan kehidupan seks yang sehat juga cukup berperan dalam mempertahankan keharmonisan rumah tangga.

Seks yang sehat harus memenuhi dua fungsi yaitu prokreatif atau fungsi untuk menghasilkan keturunan serta rekreatif atau fungsi kesenangan. Untuk memiliki kehidupan seks yang sehat harus dapat memenuhi kedua fungsi tersebut.

Berdasarkan penelitian yang dilakukan Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey pada tahun 2011, ternyata kehidupan seks orang Indonesia sudah cukup baik dimana sebanyak 90 persen pria dan 87 persen wanita Indonesia menikmati hubungan seks yang sehat.

Kurang lebih ada 95 persen wanita Indonesia sepakat bahwa berhubungan seks dapat mendekatkan mereka dan pasangan secara emosional. Ketika sedang berhubungan intim, para wanita ini merasa dicintai.

Hasil lainnya dari penelitian ini juga menunjukkan bahwa 7 dari 10 pria dan 8 dari 10 wanita setuju bahwa aspek-aspek emosional ketika sedang berhubungan seks merupakan faktor yang penting. Aspek emosional tersebut antara lain seperti perasaan dicintai dan dihormati serta saling mengenal lebih mendalam dengan pasangan.

Namun demikian, ternyata masih cukup banyak pasangan yang menikah dengan persepsi bahwa seks adalah faktor yang paling penting dalam pernikahan. Alhasil orientasi hubungan suami istri mereka hanya melulu tentang seks. Kehidupan seks merekapun hanya fokus pada teknik, posisi, frekuensi dan hal-hal fisik lainnya. Perilaku seperti ini akan menjadikan seks terasa sebagai beban.  Padahal seks merupakan salah satu aspek yang dapat berperan dalam membangun keharmonisan rumah tangga jika kehidupan seks lebih mementingkan kebersamaan, perpaduan kasih sayang,  rasa saling menghargai, mau berkorban dan tidak mementingkan diri sendiri. Dasar-dasar inilah yang dapat menciptakan kehidupan seks yang sehat dengan pasangan.

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

5 Hal Yang Membedakan Hasrat Seksual Wanita dan Pria

Sudah bukan rahasia lagi kalau kaum pria sangat mudah terangsang secara seksual, kapan saja, dimana saja dan oleh siapa saja. Sementara wanita cenderung melibatkan emosi apakah ia ingin berhubungan seks dengan seorang pria atau tidak. Selain lebih mudah terangsang, perilaku seks pria lebih to the point dibandingkan wanita.

Berikut adalah 5 perbedaan mendasar seputar hasrat seksual kaum pria dan kaum wanita. Dengan memahami cara kerja hasrat seksual pasangan berlainan jenis, para ahli meyakini bahwa hubungan anda akan dibawa ke level hubungan yang lebih baik serta akan melahirkan saling pengertian antara satu sama lain.

1. Fantasi seksual pria lebih banyak dan lebih bervariasi.

Menurut penelitian seorang psikolog sosial dari Florida State University, Roy Baumeister, hasrat seksual pada pria bersifat spontan dab pria memiliki fantasi seks yang lebih bervariasi dibanding wanita. Mayoritas kaum pria yang masih berusia di bawah 60 tahun minimal akan memikirkan seks sekali dalam sehari. Wanita yang memikirkan seks setiap hari jumlahnya hanya seperempat dibandingkan pria. Seiring pertambahan usia akan terjadi pengurangan fantasi seks baik pada pria maupun wanita, namun tetap saja pria masih berfantasi seks minimal 2 kali dalam sehari.

2. Pria lebih aktif mencari pelampiasan hasrat seksualnya

Karena pria lebih membutuhkan seks dibanding wanita maka tidak tabu bagi pria untuk berhubungan seks di awal dan ditengah hubungan, bahkan meskipun ketika hubungan personal sudah berakhir. Keaktifan dalam mencari pasanganuntuk berhubungan seks tidak hanya terjadi pada pria heteroseksual saja namun juga pada pria homoseksual.  Dari penelitian Baumeister disimpulkan kalau kaum pria memiliki keinginan untuk mempunyai pasangan seks lebih dari satu dan mereka juga lebih menyukai hubungan yang bersifat kasual.

Karena kebutuhan seksnya yang tinggi sementara mencari pasangan seks juga tidak mudah, sebanyak dua dari tiga pria mengaku sering melakukan masturbasi untuk menekan gejolak nafsu seksual mereka. Sebaliknya hanya 40 persen dari wanita yang mengaku memilih jalan masturbasi sebagai pereda hasrat seksual dan itupun jarang dilakukan.

3. Wanita sulit dibangkitkan gairah seksualnya

Berbagai cara sering dilakukan kaum pria untuk membangkitkan gairah seksual pasangannya, padahal kaum wanita sendiri sering tidak tahu bagaimana membangkitkan gairah mereka sendiri.
Sebuah penelitian pernah dilakukan oleh Meredith Chivers dan kawan-kawan dari Northwestern University dimana sekelompok pria heteroseksual, sekelompok wanita heteroseksual dan sekelompok pria homoseksual diminta untuk menonton beberapa film porno. Hasilnya adalah : kelompok pria heteroseksual terangsang oleh adegan seks pria-wanita dan wanita-wanita sementara kelompok pria homoseksual terangsang oleh adegan seks sesama pria. Yang mengejutkan sekaligus membingungkan adalah hasil yang ditunjukkan oleh kelompok wanita heteroseksual dimana mereka terangsang oleh adegan seksual pria-wanita, wanita-wanita dan pria-pria.

Menurut J. Michael Bailey, seorang peneliti dari Northwestern University, pria lebih kaku dan spesifik tentang kepada siapa mereka jatuh cinta dan ingin berhubungan seks sementara wanita lebih terbuka dan tidak spesifik dalam menentukan dengan siapa mereka ingin melakukan hubungan seksual. Hal ini menunjukkan kalau wanita lebih memiliki kemungkinan ketertarikan sesama jenis dibanding kaum pria walaupun tidak semua wanita akan melakukannya.

4. Faktor lingkungan sosial dan budaya sangat mempengaruhi hasrat seksual wanita.

Baumeister menjelaskan dalam ulasannya bahwa keinginan dan perilaku seksual wanita sangat dipengaruhi oleh lingkungan. Contohnya, seorang wanita yang aktif mendatangi tempat ibadah akan cenderung lebih tertutup mengenai seks. Sebaliknya kaum pria cenderung menunjukkan perilaku tidak ada hubungannya antara hasrat seksual dengan sikap religius mereka.

Tingkat pendidikan yang lebih tinggi juga mempengaruhi wanita lebih cenderung untuk mempraktikan seks yang lebih bervariasi.

Sebuah teori mengatakan bahwa lemahnya hasrat seksual pada wanita dipengaruhi oleh pandangan sosial dimana kaum pria dianggap memiliki posisi yang lebih kuat dan merupakan pemimpin dalam masyarakat. Namun Laumann lebih memilih menggunakan pendekatan sosiobiologi dimana secara genetik wanita memang terprogram untuk lebih berhati-hati dan tidak mengumbar hasrat seksual mereka karena wanita akan menjadi pihak yang menanggung ‘beban’ dari hubungan seksual yaitu dengan kehamilan dan kewajiban untuk mengurus bayi yang dihasilkan dari hubungan seks.

Kepekaan wanita terhadap kualitas suatu hubungan disebabkan keinginan mereka untuk memiliki pasangan yang bersedia membantu dalam mengurus anak. Wanita juga cenderung memilih untuk berhubungan dengan pria yang mapan untuk mendukung keberadaan anak, terutama karena wanita akan memiliki gerak yang terbatas selama hamil dan ketika baru memiliki anak.

5. Gairah seksual wanita kurang responsif terhadap obat-obatan.

Gairah seksual pada pria lebih to the point karena otak dan hormonnya secara biologi sudah diciptakan demikian. Itulah kenapa ketika pria mengalami penurunan hasrat seksual atau terjadi masalah disfungsi akan lebih mudah diatasi hanya dengan menggunakan obat-obatan tertentu. Sedangkan wanita jika mengalami masalah seksual akan jauh lebih rumit dan biasanya berhubungan dengan masalah mental dan kejiwaan sehingga akan butuh waktu yang lebih lama serta perlu adanya pendekatan emosi untuk memecahkan masalahnya.

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Underwear run sets world record

underwear runA protest of Utah's uptight laws that featured people running through the streets of Salt Lake City in their underwear has set a new world record.

Guinness World Records says the Utah Undie Run broke the previous record for largest gathering of people wearing only underpants or knickers by 1,720 people.

Records officials say 2,270 people stripped to their underwear during the Utah Undie Run on Sept. 24. The previous record of 550 people was set last year in Great Britain.

Utah Undie Run organizers are planning another run next August. The event's goal is to protest the state's conservative politics.

Organizers prohibit nudity. Participants donned bras, panties, nightgowns, swimwear or colorful boxer shorts.

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

'Roxxxy' World’s First Sex Robot

'Roxxxy' World’s First Sex RobotRobot developers TrueCompanion showing Roxxxy this week, the world’s first sex robot. This robot for the first time shows its skill in the AVN Adult Entertainment Expo in Las Vegas.

The idea of making the robot as a 'sleep companion' may indeed sound crazy. But TrueCompanion successfully implement it and develops a beautiful robot named Roxxxy. This humanoid robot doll designed to look like a porn star and has the ability to provide 'service' satisfaction for the owner.

"Roxxxy equipped with various programs in order to learn what is liked and not liked by her mate. She could hear, feel and speak like a real partner so Roxxxy can became a friend, a sleep companion," said creator of Roxxxy, Douglas Hines.

Sexy Roxxxy is available on the market with starting price from USD7.000 to USD9.000.

Earlier, in 1993 TrueCompanion had also created sex robot named Trudy. However, because of technological limitations at that time there was lots of users complain; she was too rigid and not smart enough to interact.

Roxxxy presence is expected to be the perfection of all shortcomings from its previous version. Roxxxy has approximately 158 cm tall and weighing approximately 54 kg.

Hines said that the owner of robots can also arrange Roxxxy’s personality types. There are five personality where owner can arrange, ranging from a calm and gentle, until the 'wild' personality. Interested?

Friday, June 12, 2009

3 Lifestyle Habits That Can Boost Your Sex Drive

Boost Your Sex DriveAll the usual healthy habits are good for your sex drive—even if your low libido is caused by a condition such as diabetes or hypertension. Remember, sexual health and general good health are profoundly interconnected.

1. Get plenty of exercise
If you want to be "hot-blooded," then improve your circulation. Physical fitness can increase blood flow, which in theory can make sex more pleasurable since sexual arousal for both men and women involves increased blood flow to the genital area. And that can increase desire itself—if it feels great, you tend to want to do it more.

Exercise boosts endorphins, which lift your mood, and it can increase your energy. Not to mention that being toned makes some people feel sexier.

2. Eat a healthy diet
Arteries clogged with saturated fat don't bring as much blood to the genital area for arousal purposes. Hence the correlation between heart disease and erectile dysfunction.

But excess weight also messes with your hormones. "Obesity can shift the balance between estrogen and testosterone," says Michael Krychman, MD, executive director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine in Newport Beach, Calif. And low testosterone can bring down your sex drive.

Nutrition counts too. For example, an iron deficiency can lead to fatigue, which in turn can lead to low libido. (Eat your broccoli!)

3. Manage your stress
"How about a simple vacation? How about communicating with your partner?" suggests Irwin Goldstein, MD, director of San Diego Sexual Medicine and editor in chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine. "People are overworked and stressed, and they translate their overworked, stressed lives to a lousy sex life."

Source @ Health.com

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Design Your Vagina - The Latest Trend

American, Australian and British just to name a few of Obstetricians and Gynecologist are expressing great concern about clinics that are performing vaginal cosmetic surgery

Women who may be in need of psychological help instead of surgery that is expensive and dangerous, are taken advantage by the clinics who charge as much as ten thousand dollars for each surgery.

The college states : "The real risks of potential complications such as scarring, permanent disfigurement, infection, dyspareunia and altered sexual sensations should be discussed in detail with women seeking such treatments"

We live in the age of cosmetic surgery. Many women aspire to look their best, sometimes even at a high price of going under the knife. Before you opt for any surgical procedure, it is important to do your due diligence and find as much information as possible about the doctor that will perform the procedure, the recovery and the outcome of the surgery.

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Condoms Types and Sizes

Condoms are the only form of protection that can both help to stop the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) such as HIV and prevent pregnancy.

Condoms come in a variety of shapes. Most have a reservoir tip although some do have a plain tip. Condoms may be regular shaped (with straight sides), form fit (indented below the head of the penis), or they may be flared (wider over the head of the penis).

Ribbed condoms are textured with ribs or bumps, which can increase sensation for both partners. Condoms also come in a variety of colours.

It's up to you which shape you choose. All of the differences in shape are designed to suit different personal preferences and enhance pleasure. It is important to communicate with your partner to be sure that you are using condoms that satisfy both of you.

Some condoms are flavoured to make oral sex more enjoyable. They are also safe to use for penetrative sex as long as they have been tested and approved.

Friday, October 17, 2008

Signs That Your Man is Cheating

Signs That Your Man is CheatingHow do you know if you are dating a cheater? You don't need to be a private eye to suss out these warning signs:

1. Revived Interest in Appearance: If your partner suddenly undergoes a makeover of sorts, in which he spends much more time on his appearance, it could mean that he is trying to impress someone new. If he all of the sudden ditches his old khakis and sweats for something more stylish, it might be because he is trying to look his best for a new woman.

2. Missing in Action: If there are large periods in which your partner is absent and unaccounted for, it could be because there are mischievous motives behind his AWOL behavior. Whether it is a run to the corner store that takes over an hour, or whether he is constantly "working late," a missing husband could mean something sinister.

3. Mysterious Texts or Phone Calls: If you notice mysterious texts or phone calls on your phone bill, or if your husband tries to hide the phone bill or his cell phone from you, it might mean that there is a new love interest in the rafters. Additionally, if he spends more time on the computer, or tries to hide the screen he was looking at when you walk in the room, this is a good indicator that he might be philandering via the worldwide web.

Of course, the best way to discover what your partner is up to behind your back is to communicate openly and honestly with him. Share your fears regarding his fidelity and try to discuss the matter before you go crazy with worry. Remember, things are not always as they seem!

Sunday, May 4, 2008

Mood Food - What to serve to get you in the mood for love.

Romantic meals are a fabulous way to show him how much you love him. If you want to seriously kick up the heat at the dinner table, make sure you stock it with a full spread of sensual foods that will ignite a little extra passion between the two of you. Here’s a quick primer of culinary aphrodisiacs.

• Grapes.
They are the perfect sweet treat to hand feed your lover. One of the most powerful historical images of seduction involved this fruit being hand fed to Cleopatra by Marc Antony. Pop a few of these bite-size gems into his mouth and you’ve set the stage for an evening (or afternoon) of passion.

• Asparagus. This veggie is reported to have been served in the 19th century to grooms on their wedding days because of its potent aphrodisiac powers. Steam spears for a healthy and sensuous experience, dressing them with butter or olive oil to amp up the sexy flavour.

• Oysters. These little sea creatures are probably the first things that come to mind when thinking about food as an aphrodisiac. Comprised of water, protein and carbohydrates, plus small amounts of fat, sugar and minerals, it is widely thought that these have a powerful effect on the libido. Why not give this decadent treat a try to see if they get your motors running?

• Chocolate. Depending on who you ask, it is better than sex, but can it put you in the mood for love? It has long been revered for its romance-revving qualities and that is apparently thanks to phenylethylamine, a naturally occurring amino acid found in chocolate which has been considered to have special effects because it’s a substance released naturally in the human body when you're in love. Chocolate fondue, dipped strawberries or cake anyone?

• Red wine. When it comes to seduction, musky, masculine reds are best. You may also want to try an earthy Pinot or a burly Cabernet brimming with aromas of leather, tobacco and earth. Remember if you are using wine as an aphrodisiac the scent is key because those vintages containing masculine notes are believed to imitate the scent of male pheromones.


Source : Yahoo! Lifestyle

Indoor Sex Hot Spots; 12 sizzlin' locations to try around the house ...

If you and your sweetie’s sex life is only limited to the bed, perhaps it’s time to spice things up and try out some other indoor spots. If you’re lacking in ideas, we have a few places in mind. And, yes: you can try these at home!

Kitchen table
Why? To whet your appetite before a feast or help you burn a few calories after a heavy meal.
Tip: Remove the tablecloth to allow your body to slide across the tabletop freely and easily.

Running washing machine (or dryer)
Why? The dryer emits an intensifying heat, and the washer will add a little extra motion to your movements. Talk about a super-sized vibrator!
Tip: To save energy, be sure to try this when you’re already doing a load of laundry, so as to not run the machines uselessly.

In the closet
Why? It’s dark and all those coats will provide comfort.
Tip: Try and make love standing upright, practically falling into your clothes. You can even hold on to the bar for leverage as your legs are wrapped around your guy’s waist.

Bath (or shower)
Why? It’s warm, wet and sensual.
Tip: In the tub, your guy could sit on the edge for an easier—and more comfortable—position. In the shower, opt for a standing position with water running down your bodies.

Pool table
Why? It's hard to ignore--or resist--the 'balls & sticks' connotation.
Tip: Cleaning the felt material afterwards may be difficult, so use a blanket.

Wine cellar
Why? The cave-like feel will get the both of you hot and primordial.
Tip: Don’t lean against glass or a shelf full of bottles, for fear they could shatter. Opt for doing it against a stone wall instead.

The piano
Why? You’ll be making love to the sounds of your own ecstasy.
Tip: The best position is for you to sit on the keys while your guy stands in front of you.

On the floor
Why? When you need to be with your guy ASAP, you sometimes can’t make it to the bed.
Tip: The next time you’re having sex on the bed, just push him off and keep going at it.

The stairs
Why? The more unusual (and uneven) the terrain is, the more sexy and exciting it will be.
Tip: Don’t do it at the top of the stairs, lest you accidentally fall to the bottom.

The garage
Why? It’s a simple space, but can provide you and your guy with many possibilities, such as the hood of the car, or the workbench.
Tip: Be sure to pick the safest spot in the garage, and bring a blanket with you for comfort and hygiene.

In front of a fireplace
Why? It’s terribly romantic, and will keep your naked bodies warm and toasty.
Tip: Find a bear- or sheep-skin rug (fake, of course) to complete the effect

On the desk
Why? Because it’ll force you both to finally file all the papers that are strewn about afterwards.
Tip: Ideally, remove the computer before starting, to avoid disaster. Also, ensure the desk is stable enough to support your combined weight.

Source : Yahoo! Lifestyle

10 things you don't know about sex

1: Ready, set, go—there’s nearly no difference in the amount of time it takes healthy men and women to reach peak sexual arousal: roughly 10 minutes.

2: One per cent of adults have zero interest in sex and have never felt sexually attracted to anyone at all. Asexuality may be an under-the-radar sexual orientation, but researchers have only just begun to study it. On the other end of the rainbow, an estimated 3 to 6 per cent of the population have some form of sex addiction.

3: Straight, gay or flexible? Recent research suggests women may be “intrinsically bisexual,” and the higher their libido, the more they desire both sexes. In another study, the female subjects—whether they considered themselves straight or gay—were physically aroused by erotic films of both men and women. In contrast, the straight men were excited just by women, and the gay men only by men.

4: Canadian men have, on average, 23 sexual partners in total (notably more than the global average of 13), according to one recent worldwide survey. Their female counterparts reportedly have 10. The hitch? Number crunchers say the finding that men have substantially more bedmates on average than women is mathematically impossible.

5: Beyond its unsexy smell and taste, smoking appears to double a man’s risk of moderate or complete erectile dysfunction.

6: Once upon a time, doctors treated women suffering from “hysteria” by stimulating them to orgasm—a service dubbed “medical massage.” By the 1930s, it was abandoned in favour of psychotherapy.

7: Why do I bed thee? Let me count the ways. U.S. researchers who set out to catalogue all the reasons why humans have sex came up with 237 distinct ones. Among the top 10 motives, women and men had eight in common. A notable exception: “I realized I was in love” came in at number nine for women, but at number 17 for men.

8: Having sex regularly—at least once a week—may promote fertility in women by regulating hormones and menstrual patterns.

9: Male sweat contains androstadienone, a compound that enhances mood and sexual arousal in women. Alas, it also boosts levels of stress hormones. The chemical has been used as an ingredient in men’s fragrances.

10: What’s love got to do with it? Sexual arousal and romantic love activate quite distinct areas of the brain—and love is clearly the more powerful. The latter turns on dopamine-rich regions linked with motivation, and falling in love is not unlike the rush of taking cocaine, hence the addictiveness of a new crush, and the withdrawal-like symptoms of love lost.


Source : Yahoo! Lifestyle

Thursday, May 1, 2008

6 Secret Ways to Turn Her On

She's got her eye on you -- and these small gestures will awaken desires she never knew she had

Rest assured, every woman wants to be seduced.
We just don't like guys who go for the seduction jugular: the champagne, the Barry White, the walk on the beach. A man who has tried one of these, or, God forbid, all of them at once, is a man who knows well the face of humiliation and failure.

No, the key to turning her on for sex is not to advertise how much you want her, but, rather, to quietly make clear why she should want you. When it comes to sex, in other words, you don't need a billboard--you need sneaky subliminal messages.

They used to use tricks like these to sell more Coke at the movies. Now you can use them to get more women.

1. Ditch the cell.
(Wait. You'd better not be wearing one, because if you are, you're a walking seduction-free zone. This includes beepers.) First of all, women are very serious about our schedules, and if we've set aside time to spend with you, we're not keen on sharing it with your free minutes. Second, when chatting on the phone, you can't help but reveal some of the ins and outs of your work or private life, and that kind of openness is girly, creepy, and not sexy.

But here's the biggest problem: Any guy who can't go 2 hours without checking in with his friends, his job, his family, comes across as desperately insecure. Go ahead and actually turn it off in front of her. She will recognize you as the man who is comfortable and at peace with what's in front of him, and thank her stars you're not the guy who's always wondering what and who is next.

Watch out: Putting your phone on vibrate and repeatedly checking to see who's calling without answering not only is not seductive, but also shows you're kind of an arrogant jerk.

2. Fix something.
Men fixing broken things--light switches, toasters, clogged toilets--is a tradition that dates back to, well, a time when men did things besides nod, point, and hand other men their debit cards. We know that you probably can't gap your points or replace the alternator in your Hyundai. But with a little practice, and some very basic, moron-friendly manuals, you can do plenty of other tasks that would establish you as a Competent Male. If you're going to do this, though, try to do it in her presence. And it's okay, even advisable, to swear if you can't find the right tools, as long as you don't complain.

Danger zone: Don't get dirt on your face unless you're doing something fairly complicated. There's a fine line between looking manly and looking like a doofus with dirt on his face.

3. Read a book.
Allow me to interrupt that thrilling game of Ghost Recon to pose the following question: Do you have any idea of the mass quantity of ass you could get just by reading one book? Women read a lot, and, like pretty much everything else we do, we like to talk about it. Only we can rarely talk about it with guys, because, well, many of you (although not necessarily you personally) are Neanderthals growing slowly illiterate in front of an Xbox. But imagine yourself talking to a pretty woman, and she mentions that she's reading a book, and you've actually read it, too! So if this pretty woman thought you were cute, now she thinks you're smart, too.

Also: Reading in public is a great way to give women an excuse to talk to you.

4. Replace the bottles on the office watercooler.
Modern life, what with its dearth of catapults, marauding wolves, and barn raisings, doesn't provide men with many opportunities to show off their brute strength. It's a very lucky accident that in the midst of all this ease-making progress, we've managed to poison our drinking-water supply.

And since somebody has to replace those unwieldy 5-gallon plastic containers on the office cooler, it might as well be you. It's such a quick, easy way to make the chicks in the office sit up and take notice of your athletic prowess. You know those bottles aren't that heavy, but who cares, because women think they are, Hercules.

Alternative: If you don't have a watercooler in your office, be the first to offer your man power when a stalled or stuck-in-the-snow car needs a push. You want to make your point and then get back to work. There's a reason they call it "the strong, silent type."

5. Write e-mails that are more than five syllables long.
If you're dating a woman, really like her, and yet insist on writing her e-mails that read "ok cu later," you are such an idiot that I don't even know why I'm trying to help you. Men are all about keeping things short and to the point. And when it comes to business correspondence or letting your friends know where you're watching the Dolphins game, that's fine. But short and to the point, in chick world, translates into BORING and UNIMAGINATIVE and--the worst sin of all--UNINTERESTED.

You don't have to get all Cyrano de Bergerac on her ass. But an interesting sentence or two, please, is so easy and so, so point scoring. Examples? She writes, "How was your night?" DO NOT write back, "It was okay." Even if all you did was drink two beers and watch CSI, have something to say. Like, "Do you think real female forensic investigators all wear those low-cut pants?" Just some evidence, please, that you are a living, breathing, thinking human being who doesn't spend all his time away from her staring at a wall. Because that's the image "It was okay" evokes.

Oh, and: "It was okay, how was yours?" is not an improvement over "It was okay." Cop-out is written all over it.

6. Disagree with her.
I have a friend, Nancy, who is extremely beautiful. She is the sort of woman for whom men will do just about anything. She sort of knows this, so she has a tendency to test the limits of their patience and generosity. One day, she was going on and on to her boyfriend about something he had done wrong. He apologized. He apologized twice. And she still went on and on. Finally, he looked right at her, at her perfect arms crossed self-righteously across her perfect breasts as her perfect mouth issued forth criticism after criticism, and said, "Would you please shut the fu-- up?"

She made passionate love to him thereafter and, basically, hasn't stopped since. We're not saying you should shoot down all our complaints by dropping f-bombs, but appeasement isn't always your best move, especially when we've gotten out of hand.

Source : Men'sHealth

Make her seduce you!

We wish every woman treated sex as if it were a Jason Statham movie -- nonstop action, lots of screams, 20 explosions per minute. If you feel the same way, maybe it's time you traded in your silent partner for someone a bit more adventurous. Someone who knows enough sex tricks to write her own HBO series. Follow our advice and you won't have to look far. She's sleeping next to you. Yeah, that's right, the very same woman in the long flannel nightgown, who nodded off during The Office at 8:30. Well, it's time for a wake-up call.

PROBLEM: She initiates sex about as often as Libya initiates peace
While one survey showed that nearly two-thirds of women say they initiate sex at least sometimes, the bad news is that she counts occasional hair-flipping as initiation. At least once every few weeks, it'd be nice to have our shirts torn apart by someone other than the dry cleaner.

SOLUTION: Buy her new shoes
It works two ways. One, you're playing into her idea of foreplay: Doing something terribly nice and out of the ordinary makes her want you more. And, even more important, it gives you the chance to work all of those sensitive nerve endings in her feet. When you check her for fit, linger around the tips of her toes. Don't be surprised if she kicks off her shoes as soon as you get home.

PROBLEM: She hides her body under sheets, pillows, and you
You've spent your life imagining your body next to airbrushed babes from beer commercials. She's spent the same time comparing herself with them. If she doesn't like to reveal flesh, it's probably because she's not comfortable showing it off to you.

SOLUTION: Stop telling her how much you love her legs
Women are weird this way. "If you say something nice about her breasts, she'll just wonder why you don't like her butt," says Pamela Regan, Ph.D., a psychologist at California State University in Los Angeles. Go for general compliments. Tell her, "Your body is incredible."

PROBLEM: Your bedroom sounds like high-school detention -- silence, with maybe a few giggles
Men love it when women moan, scream, and pant. It makes it sound -- to the flight attendants, anyway -- as if we know what we're doing.

SOLUTION: Create chaos
If she's quiet, it's probably because she's afraid of waking the guards. So create background noise to make her feel relaxed -- run the dishwasher, have sex in the shower, drop a CD. You can even sing a little: When you're giving her oral sex, hum along. The low vibrations from your vocal cords will feel incredible to her. Press firmly with your lips; that's where you'll generate the most vibration.

Source : Men'sHealth!

Thursday, March 6, 2008

Female Orgasm Myths

woman orgasmWe’ve come a long way since the days when science doubted the existence of the female orgasm. Today, a woman’s sexual satisfaction is a major field of study and the average couple has spent a great deal of time trying to improve her experience. This is certainly appreciated, but some of you may be trying too hard; her level of satisfaction may already be everything she could hope for.

That’s right: You may be striving toward a goal that has been based entirely on myth. This misinformation circulates with surprising frequency and you may be shocked (if not relieved) to learn how wrong some of them are. Read on as we discuss, and set right, the biggest female orgasm myths around.

All women want a G-spot orgasm
Put in the simplest terms possible: This is a load of crap. While it’s true that many women lust for G-spot orgasms, it’s a complete orgasm myth that all women desire such a thing. For many women, having the G-spot stimulated -- even "correctly" -- results in a sensation that can only be described as extremely uncomfortable. It can make a woman feel like she needs to urinate immediately, and that’s never fun. It can also cause her to feel pain, and not in a sexy S&M kind of way, either. In fact, the whole stimulating the G-spot thing can annoy some women to the point where it completely turns them off for the rest of the evening. Yes, some women love having their G-spot stimulated -- but many don’t.

Women need a skilled partner to orgasm
Many men pride themselves on their ability to make a woman orgasm (and your skills are definitely appreciated), but the ultimate responsibility for a woman’s orgasm belongs to her. It’s perfectly normal for a woman to have difficulty achieving a vaginal orgasm -- that’s why God invented the clitoris. Meaning: She can still achieve a fabulous orgasm even if her lover is a virgin with limited experience and know-how. A man’s efforts are certainly helpful, but if she’s not achieving orgasm she has no one to blame but herself. Additionally, many women suffer from performance anxiety just as men do. If a woman falls into this category, even the most skillful of men wouldn’t be able to make her orgasm, regardless of his efforts.

Women need to orgasm to enjoy themselves
This orgasm myth couldn’t be further from the truth. Sex feels good whether you have an orgasm or not, and when combined with the right level of intimacy, the experience can be immensely satisfying regardless of whether or not she climaxes. Many women even prefer foreplay to actual sex and orgasm. Why? Because, for some women kissing, hugging and caressing are more satisfying than anything you see in porn flicks. If you combine these acts of affection with slow and steady penetration, most women will be perfectly content at the end of your love session.

Vaginal orgasms are better than clitoral orgasms
This orgasm myth is a bit like comparing apples and oranges. OK, not exactly, but you get the idea. The basic point is this: Both are perfectly lovely and they can be equally satisfying. The only reason vaginal orgasms are regarded as the Holy Grail of ecstasy is how infrequently they occur. Statistically speaking, it’s estimated that 30% of women will never even experience one and only 30% do so with regularity. That means you have a very good chance of dating or marrying a woman who will never achieve a vaginal orgasm. Unfair as that may sound, clitoral orgasms are not to be taken lightly; they can be absolutely earth-shattering under the right circumstances, and some women prefer them. Clitoral orgasms are wonderful and there is no reason to pity a woman who hasn’t experienced an orgasm through vaginal stimulation.

Women can’t ejaculate
Anyone who still believes this orgasm myth has clearly never seen a good porn film. Women can definitely ejaculate, and some can do so more forcefully (and with more volume) than men. It’s a relatively new acknowledgment in the scientific community, so the research still leaves something to be desired, but there’s plenty of evidence to support the claim. We know that women ejaculate through the urethra, just like men. Female ejaculate contains the same substances male ejaculate contains, and it’s produced in the "female prostate" -- an organ which is extremely similar to the male prostate, albeit smaller. Women seem to ejaculate primarily through direct stimulation of the G-spot (some scientists believe this is actually the urethral sponge), but not all women can or will experience ejaculation. So, if she doesn't have a gushing end, don't think she didn't enjoy herself, just try again another time.

Source @ Askmen

Friday, January 25, 2008

Politically Correct Sex (For Women)

By : Joan Z. Shore

A confession: I do not watch the Oprah Winfrey show. I can't receive it at home in France, and when I'm wintering in Florida it never occurs to me to turn it on.

Obviously, I'm missing something. And I missed something important last week: Oprah's discussion with Dr. Christiane Northrup about female
masturbation.

Sorry -- I meant to say female self-cultivation. Because, while it's perfectly all right for men to "masturbate," women doing approximately the same thing are now "cultivating" themselves, according to the good doctor.

This sounds like more than political correctness: It's smarmy Victorian prudery combined with post-Freudian egomania.

When men get horny, they can jerk off. Why can't women? Can you imagine any man you know saying that he "cultivated" himself?

Dr. Northrup further complicates the subject by advising women to take 30 minutes three times a week to "self-cultivate." Okay -- when do you do it? During your lunch break, before the kids come home from school, while dinner is simmering on the stove, after hubby has fallen asleep on the couch? Most likely, you're already doing 30 minutes on the treadmill, or 20 minutes of Pilates, or 10 minutes of deep breathing....and now you need an hour and a half a week to discover and develop your erogenous zones?

There seems to be some confusion here, and it comes from the fact that Dr. Northrup is lumping together three distinct issues: Knowing what turns you on, doing what turns you on, and getting it off.

For most women (and many men, too) candlelight, good music, a good meal, a little wine, are almost sure-fire aphrodisiacs. An erotic film or book, provocative conversation, suggestive clothing and heady scents can get the hormones moving, too. Those are the stimuli, the ingredients. You know very well what works for you. (And sometimes a new ingredient will delightfully surprise you!)

Doing what turns you on -- or having someone do it to you -- is the second issue. It's what we used to call foreplay, but Dr. Northrup has turned it into self-examination because we're doing it to ourselves. Are we really so ignorant and ashamed of our erogenous zones? When there is nobody around to nuzzle our neck, lick our ear, or stroke our back, don't we know how to massage our own breasts and tummy and groin?

Getting it off is where we want to end up, sooner or later, and Dr. Northrup makes it very much later. She doesn't acknowledge that sometimes women, like men, are simply hyped-up or stressed-out and need a quick fix to release the tension. To hell with candlelight and to hell with foreplay. Bring on the dildo and the vibrator.

"Self-cultivation" is another example of how we love to complicate the simple facts of life. Just as good nutrition has been subverted and obfuscated by innumerable diet plans and theories, so too has sex. These pseudo-sciences are not making our lives happier or easier -- they are just confounding the issues and wasting our time, and making money for the self-appointed "experts."

Werner Erhard, the founder of est, said it best: When you're hot you're hot, when you're not you're not. It's as simple as that.

Source @ huffingtonpost.com

Friday, January 4, 2008

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